"The silly things I like mean a lot to me. If you let me be vulnerable with small joys, I will be vulnerable with bigger things."

Author's note: I'm a gay man(?) who leans more gender-queer, so I don't really have much skin in this game, lol. I am simply a vessel for information, but I root for you, straight people, and want everyone to feel happy, seen, and loved.💖

"I started being the big spoon because my hair kept smothering/strangling my BF, but now I really love it."

"Relationship therapy suggests being on your partner's side in the moment. You should bring it up again if your partner isn't emotionally charged, and you have the capacity to have the conversation. I really appreciate my partner encouraging opportunities for growth."

"Say it. As a woman, I’m begging you, for the love of god, please say it."

"I’ve done that twice in 24 years of marriage. One time, my wife took a breath and said, 'Honey, thank you,' and calmed down. The second time, she completely lost her shit."

"It's appropriate to compliment people on things they do on purpose; it's the compliments on things about their body, etc., that can make it weird."

"As a woman, I am guilty of judging men’s hobbies as juvenile or attention-seeking, but I think men are just as emotional as women and seem to put that energy into little things we may not realize."

"Even as a woman, I say to my female friends who are venting, 'Are we listening or are we problem solving?' It can actually make such a difference."

"The last time I complimented a man, he waited in the parking lot for me to get out of work. I see this sentiment a lot from men, and I wish they would understand there’s a reason for that. If women feel safe, we’ll ALL have more access to community. They’ll compliment you more."

"Some of us would love that, or building our own next to you!"

"I think many women would be thrilled to hear that, myself included."

"Please tell her. I had a health issue for years that caused this until someone told me, and I got it sorted within a few months. I was grateful for it."

"My wife has mental and medical issues (not a dig), so I always act strong for her and support her. She still guilt-trips me every time I go camping or hunting by myself. I don't think she understands how much of a relief it is for me to be alone sometimes and not have to keep the act up."

"I’m such a direct person that this always bothers me so much about men, lol. I’m always confused about what is confusing. Just say something or ask a question. Girls love questions and introspection, but don’t be pushy."

"We like being that way, too! It’s nice when a relationship is a place where we can both let our guards down. We love men who treat us in a way that allows us to be gentle and tender. :)"

"A man came up to me in the gym a month or so ago and asked me, 'Are you a gymnast or something?' I said no, and he said, 'You’re really fucking strong.' Then he shook his head and said it again, and kind of just walked away? It was perfect and made my day."

"I bought my ex Qdoba and seduced him on his lunch break. 💅"

Note: Responses have been edited for length/clarity.