“She couldn’t accept that I wanted her and only her, so she constantly accused me of cheating when I wasn’t. After seven years of being faithful and being accused of cheating, I finally cheated!”

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"Of course, I take full accountability for what I did, but after lots of work and therapy, we came out of it better than before. We joke that if I hadn't done what I did and shocked the system, we probably would have gotten divorced. We have raised three great kids and are on our way to celebrate our 18th anniversary this year."

—Anonymous, 42, Male, San Diego, California

"I take responsibility for that choice. We built a life together over 14 years. We raised a young family, shared a home, and weathered life’s challenges. Over time, though, we drifted emotionally. We became more like partners managing life than two people intentionally staying connected. Instead of recognizing how isolated I had become, willing to get help for my unresolved issues, and talking openly about it, I withdrew. That distance created vulnerabilities in me, but my decision to have an affair was still my responsibility."

"She deserves the world, and I failed to give that to her. I have nobody to blame but myself, and to this day, I would still do anything for her. She even tells me about her dates. I hope she meets the perfect guy and I wish her nothing but the best, but if a man ever abuses her, then he will have problems with me."