“See him for who he IS and not who he COULD be.”

"They become totally dependent on their husbands income, losing their own. Then if anything goes wrong, they do not have the means to leave, so they become stuck in a relationship they no longer want to be in. Oh the men love that, they can be lazy and mean, knowing you cant leave."

"Yeah, dont be like me, keep your career, remain independent."

"Take stock of how you guys argue, because that doesn’t change once you’re married. At least not without therapy, some serious soul searching, and hard work. Marriage is beautiful and wonderful and amazing, and you should absolutely celebrate the joy of being in love with your best friend! But there *will* be tough times and you should be certain that you can handle them at their worst, and they you."

"Remember their likes and dislikes. Bring them flowers. If they mention something they’re pining for, gift it to them for no reason. If they mention a day trip they want to take, take a Saturday to surprise them with a whole day planned out. Make their favorite meal on a weeknight. Anything you CAN do, seize the chance. The small gestures add up to a beautiful life together." 

"If you are fighting or feel unloved or unseen or misunderstood before you’re married, that will not change. If you are at all unsure, or even have a subconscious inkling that you’re making the wrong decision…YOU ARE! Do not let the sunk cost fallacy control your life, because with the right person, it is so much easier and better than you can imagine."

"The wrong person will do more than take away years of your life that you could have spent with someone who loves you just as much as you love them. On the flip side, if you’re not serious about someone, don’t waste their time. Men have feelings too."