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"Sometimes the best option is just to go to bed (together or separately) and revisit it in the morning, assuming it still even needs to be discussed. After nearly 20 years of marriage, some fights are so stupid that they just die on the vine!"

"Oh, so you want me to be extra mean while we argue? No, let me get a good night's sleep. I'll probably forget why I was mad and be calmed down enough to actually talk through the issue in the morning (after some coffee)."

"My husband and I found a compromise that we absolutely love! We wanted so badly to sleep next to each other, but our sleep styles are completely incompatible. So, we took two full-size beds and smushed them together. He has 'his bed,' I have mine, but we are still technically sleeping in the same bed. We call it Mega Bed, and it’s perfect."

"Couples have to share everything with each other. If someone tells you something in confidence and it does not involve you, you should not share that with your significant other. Just because you trust them doesn't mean everyone else does. It just makes you a lousy friend." 

"Also, I’m bisexual, so what? No friends at all?"

"Really anything that implies you don’t trust your partner not to cheat. The ‘open phone policy’ is another one. If you need external proof that I’m not cheating or restraints to ‘prevent it’, you’re accusing me of cheating, the trust is gone, and I’m done with the relationship."

"Men have to propose to women. My mom proposed to my dad, and this was in 1983 lol." 

"People always look at me sideways when I say my wife and I don't fight because they seem to think 'fight' is a synonym for 'disagreement.' We disagree all the time. But we talk about it, talk it through, and try to reach a place of compromise and agreement without devolving into fighting and yelling. Having someone you can do that with is life-altering in the best way, and I don't understand people who equate yelling and screaming with passion or whatever."

"We avoid almost all arguments and animosity by this simple trick: Once a year, usually on Christmas or New Year's, my husband and I get drunk and go to a quiet, secluded place and have a friendly, mutual fist fight. It’s at least a fair fight because we don’t have a huge size difference. I’m actually a bit taller than he is by about 2.5 inches. We have a great time and get food afterward. It’s the best thing for our relationship, and I think more people should do it." 

"I would never get married to someone before sleeping with them. Not compatible in bed = not compatible in life." 

"We did this. My fiancée said if she wore a ring to show she was committed to me, I should wear one to show I was committed to her, too. We bought a silver band, and I wore it on my right hand throughout the year of our engagement and the 25 years of our marriage so far. I honestly don’t understand why dual engagement rings aren’t more common." 

"It's such a fine line. Sometimes, talking about issues with my partner can be extremely helpful. Other times, it is as you said: a problem unto itself. I'm in my early 40s, and my partner and I have been together just under 10 years, and I'm still figuring this one out. Sharing/talking about everything can be just as bad as sharing/talking about nothing." 

Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.