“Having fun with other people doesn’t make you straight or gay — it makes us human.”

I'm an Associate Editor on BuzzFeed's Pop Culture team who spends my days fangirling over all my favorite TV shows and movies.

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"Would I be into a poly relationship, or consider opening up my vows to only men? I don't know, it all depends on how I feel in the moment, and how I click with that person. I fantasize about sex with my wife, but I am also human, and having fun with other people doesn't make you straight or gay — it makes us human. It means we admit that we can give and receive pleasure. It makes us strong in our absence of guilt. I admit those years of musky, sweaty pleasure were hot and satisfying, but I settled down, and now I get laid maybe once a month if I'm lucky. Explore, have fun, and never regret as a middle-aged man or woman, all the fun you could have shared in your youth. Just do it safely. Be safe, whoever you are, and labels are meant only for generic foods in the grocery aisle. Real things don't need labels. You can see what they are, and if you want them or not."

—Anonymous, 50, male, Port Angeles, Washington

"I've never actually told anyone because I guess I don't feel safe sharing it with people. I don't find men attractive, but I mean, I didn't mind doing stuff with him just because we were so close.

It has given me a better view of life in the long run, though. I guess I lost all judgment on people regardless of their sexual orientation, even though I came from a conservative family that would lose their shit if they knew.

It made me realize a person is a person... It doesn't matter their gender or orientation, we are all human with fears, desires, hopes, disappointments. We are all really the same regardless of some physical differences."

"I remember waking up the next morning and feeling disgusting, never wanting to hang out with him again, but in a few days, we were back to playing video games together. In a couple of weeks, we had another sleepover, and we progressively got more and more comfortable jacking each other off and just generally being horny around each other. Sometimes when we were home alone, we would just whip it out and start masturbating while playing GoldenEye 007. We eventually started watching porn together, and we started sucking each other's dicks.

Honestly, looking back, it was absolutely awesome, and I don't regret a minute of it — but the amount of shame I felt at the time was overwhelming. It was a secret that we had that we couldn't let anyone else know about... Hell, as this progressed through the early years of high school, we'd continue our shenanigans while we had our own girlfriends.

We ended up falling entirely out of contact. I'm pretty sure he ended up coming out of the closet completely. Me? I'm straight. Or at least primarily straight. The thought of what we did and how taboo it was gets me going to this day. Guys aren't attractive to me, but stories that are similar to my own get me incredibly horny incredibly quickly."

"I remember it not being a very pleasant experience, because he was quite aggressive with his technique and used a lot of teeth. I actually had a difficult time reaching orgasm, let alone staying hard. After what felt like forever, I came in his mouth, and post-nut clarity kicked in and made me want to nope right out of there as fast as possible. The offer was still on the table for me to do whatever I wanted after the refractory period, but I didn't want to stick around. I used his bathroom to wash my dick off, got dressed, and went straight home and never spoke of it again to anyone. He messaged me the next day asking to do it again, and I just blocked him.

2/10, did not like the casual bisexual hookup. If I were single, I'd be much more likely to do it with one of my guy friends that I am comfortable with, but as far as I know, I only have straight friends who aren't into that sort of thing."

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