"The divorcees I know usually started their relationships from the standpoint of..."

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"You said it better than I could. My wife often tells me we have almost no interests in common, and I have been trying to find a way to describe to her that mutual interest isn’t all there is. Our values, though, match to a T. As do our goals for our family and each other. Having someone who supports you and you want to support in turn is extremely important."

"As an example, one of the big reasons I married my wife:

I phrased something really poorly early in the relationship. She told me how she interpreted what I said and asked what I meant by it."

"Same here. I’d also add to have some hobbies that overlap. My wife and I go hiking, to concerts, and travel around the world together, and it’s always a blast. I know some couples that never do anything together, and that’s just wild to me."

"I love to play video games, but my wife loves to read. Our hobbies don't really overlap, but we can share them with each other. I am never happier than when I'm playing a game while my wife sits next to me and reads her books."

"This is so incredibly important. I spent over 10 years in a relationship with someone who lacked the capacity to trust, and every day was spent living in a prison. Even the most minor things were relentlessly questioned, which led me not to live my true life but to live the life that gets by with the least friction — and that’s a miserable place to be."

"I met my girl at the library, and she's the greatest thing going for me besides my son, who is from my previous relationship, and loves to party. Find what suits you best, and love every moment."