"I worry that I'll never feel the same way again for anybody else."

humorist, romance novel lover, and Real Housewives fan.

"My friend thinks it is not gender specific, so I’m wondering if any women here have that feeling of nostalgia or still holding a candle for any previous exes. Something that still feels alive — like maybe you would go back if you could?

If so, why did that relationship end? What stops you from trying again? And do you view it as a problem for future relationships or take any steps to overcome said feelings?"

Some responses have been edited for length and clarity.