"An ex-friend demanded I throw her a huge surprise 40th birthday party and invite a bunch of (sketchy) people I'd never met. To my house. During the COVID lockdown. While I was dealing with chemo and breast cancer."

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—Anonymous, 61, female, Oakland, California

"She got mad when I shut it down because 'she didn't realize it was my decision to make.' No, you entitled *insert creative word here.* It's our dad's decision, and you're only pushing for a house with double the amount of bedrooms than people staying there and three pools because the man who is retired and on a fixed income is paying for it... WHAT?!"

"Then, she smoked in the car and snapped at me when I asked her if she could please not, as the smoke made me feel worse. She snapped that it's her car and she'll smoke if she wants to."

"Later, I found out their main concern was to ensure they weren't the only ones in the dark about our marriage. They also didn't like that we eloped, saying it 'wasn't right.' MIL came the next day with an envelope containing a check for $1K. A wedding gift, I guess. I told my husband it felt insincere to receive or accept, so I wanted nothing to do with that money. (She is a gift bomber, too.) How is this person who dislikes me and hasn't spoken to me in a year just going to come wave money at my face? Nah, lady."

"It turned out that these people had apparently decided they were single-handedly keeping this entire show in the consciousness, and they'd attacked several fans for not agreeing with every single thing they'd said. There were about 500 people at this con, and most of us had no idea who they were!

On top of this, the awards they gave the actors got several of them stopped at airport security because they were shaped like weapons! It was wild!"

"She treated so many close friends as though she were the queen bee, and we were mere drones. So many examples. She had a complete personality (or maybe perspective) change."

"It was a last-second thing and wasn't going to be long. The friend I went with took a cringey photo of me eating the burrito, and I posted it, tagging them.When I got to work the next night, the guy I thought was my friend sent me a long text calling me a 'lousy f***ing friend' for going out with other people but not inviting him. I tried to explain to him that it had been a long week at work, and the outing was a last-second thing. He then said, 'Like we haven't done anything last minute.' He then tried to make himself look like the good guy, saying he was the reason I got invited to lunch with a group earlier in the week, and went on a whole rant. I finally told him that I was at work and was not going to continue this conversation, and that I truly wish him the best, but I don't want this friendship to continue."

"And I was like, 'Yeah, they are here to play, so you'll be waiting awhile. It's a public place!' They eventually packed up and walked off in a huff."

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